This Blog Crawl of Self-Love is hosted by Molly Mahar of Stratejoy. She believes in the transformational power of truly adoring ourselves and so do I. Find out more about The ABC’s of Self Love Blog Crawl + Treasure Hunt here.
How many times has someone asked you, “Do you understand?” and you nod and say yes, but really you have no freaking clue what they’re talking about?
There are a lot of complicated things in life. I don’t understand taxes, html, blatent ignorance, violence and many other things.
But, there’s one thing I know for sure and that I understand 100 percent.
Self love is the number one thing you need in order
to be happy and to feel good.
You can love others with all your heart. You can volunteer your time and your money. You can buy all the designer shoes, handbags and jeans you ever wanted. And it will all probably make you feel good and happy. For a few minutes. But, without self-love, sister, you’ll be staring at all of it wondering what the hell is still wrong.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I love all the “stuff” too. But, I’ll tell you something from my personal experience. There was a time where I went to the ends of the earth to make my outside appearance fill up my heart. It was to my understanding that if I had “it all”- the perfect hair (or lack of it in certain places), the tan, the perfect body, the perfect clothes, that my life would be perfect. That I would be loved. That I would then be happy. And when I wasn’t, I asked, “What is wrong with me? I don’t understand.”
There wasn’t anything to understand. It was so simple, yet so foggy in all the “stuff” I was trying to get and have. I would try harder, buy more stuff, work out more and wonder…..why?
Thousands of dollars in credit card bills later, I understood.
I understood it wasn’t the new boobs that would make me happy. It wasn’t the closet full of clothes or the hot boyfriend.
It was me.
And trust me when I tell you, the sooner you understand this, the sooner your life will begin. You will begin to see life with new eyes. You’ll start to “get it”. It’s like a door is unlocked to some secret society. A society where there is acceptance, self-awareness, growth, purpose and aliveness. Permission to be you. The person you were made to be. The person you are best at being.
This is a place where no one is broken. We are human and messy. We have bad days, but we don’t live there. We learn from our mistakes, we don’t dwell on them. And we have compassion for others who aren’t here yet and spread the word.
I understand this because I have been on both sides. And if you’re on the side of not understanding, I invite you to come over. There’s plenty of room for you.