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Master Certified Martha Beck Life Coach and Coach Instructor, Amy Pearson, shares 26 pages of her absolute can’t-live-without favorite coaching tools.
So you can……
… feel confident and on-track no matter what life throws your way.
… wake up each day inspired to do your work in the world.
… improve your relationships across the board — at home, at work, with your kids, and most of all, with yourself.
… be more productive and focused than ever before.
… move forward towards your dreams each and every day!
After years of being a stay at home mom, keeping up the home, the children, the car, etc., I found so many things about this interview related to me. I remember trying to do it all, have the house perfect, the van clean, the laundry, all so that my husband could come home and find it perfect. While I was busy trying to get his approval, he was busy getting his co-worker’s approval in a two year affair.
I am getting closer and closer to the realization that the only approval I should work for is my own. I have no control over other people’s choices, but I do my own.
Yes, it is definitely easier said than done, but what isn’t?
Thank you for the inspiration to be my authentic self! Rae
Hi Rae, Love what you wrote. Approve of yourself first and you cut out the middle man. It’s so much quicker and easier. And isn’t the truth? We have ZERO control over other people – what they think, what they say, what they do. It’s exhausting trying to control what is impossible to control. Thanks and best of luck to your grrl! xoxo-a
I have said that I don’t want to wear a bathing suit because I don’t feel comfortable with the way I look in it, that I don’t care what people think when I express my opinions (often loudly) and that I continue to work in a job that pays me well, but is soul-sucking because I don’t want to put my family at risk. After years of thinking that I had healed and was no longer caught in the approval trap, I realize that I have been lying to myself. Years of feeling unloved, unaccepted and never good enough in my own home as a child have made me an approval addict.
Well, once an addict always an addict as they say. Seriously, I have “relapses” all the time. But the good thing is I don’t use the occasional relapse as an excuse to beat the crap out of myself in my head. I use it as a chance to learn about myself. And I find that I become more and more at peace with myself and my life and the choices I make. Thank you for your comment!
I’m completely identified with the fact of doing everything just to please everyone and not being able to really be yourself. At a point in my personal life I thought I was worth practically nothing just because of the fact that I wasn’t attractive to other men. So I became this self conscious insecure person who only tried to please them in order to earn their love and their attention. I’m still working on this issue, but I feel like there were soooo many things I didn’t do as a child and as a teenager because I thought they didn’t go with my approval addiction. For instance, I never thought I danced well so I never tried any dancing lesssos, even though I wanted to. I never played in the school band because I thought I wasn’t cool or good enough by doing it. Those are things that now as a grown up I regret very very much, because I feel that my life hasn’t been what I wanted exactly because of that.
Also, my wanting to be approved has made me do things I’m not proud of. And has gotten me into habits like smoking and drinking, and also sexual stuff. I’m sorry about being so honest here, but I thought I could just release it here and maybe get some understanding
Jenny, I will be a compassionate witness to what you say… THANK YOU for being so honest. I find it takes a lot of courage to do but it also inspires other people to be honest as well. And you may regret not doing those things in the past but I believe we all have pasts that prepare us perfectly for who we are to become. So nothing is ever a waste. Also you have plenty of time to start dancing now! I started salsa dancing when I was in my late thirties! That’s what the other side of approval addiction looks like – the willingness to follow your heart, without apologies. To do it for YOU regardless of what other people think.There is so much freedom and joy in that. YOU GO GIRL!
I had an “aha” moment when Amy described perfectionism as control! I get it, I am a perfectionist and also a control freak! I try daily to overcome the need to have it all “my way” and try to release the notion that it is the “right way”… I also have a huge set-back in my career each and every time I am rejected and turned down for a job. Most often I realize it wouldn’t have been a good fit but the underlying feeling of being slapped in the face is still there. I would love to get more information on the approval syndrome and also some personal coaching to help me stay inspired and focused!
Hi Wendie, Yep perfectionism is one of those success killers. It keeps us from being willing to risk, to make mistakes, to fail. And successful people are simply willing to do what unsuccessful people are not – which means risk! Failure is all just feedback. Consider my upcoming coaching program. It sounds like it might be perfect for you! http://www.bloomlifedesign.com/bebrazen/andrea/
I found your website while researching look and feel for my new business. I was attracted by the title. Just the name provokes a certain energy that appeals to me. Your site feels fun-loving and energizing. Based on your posts and videos you and your messages feel geniune; not forced or phoney. You really feel like someone I can relate to, which is the feel I want for my website and business. Thank you for sharing yourself.
I also wanted to thank you for the interview above. It was a subject that hit home with me. You and Amy are amazing, inspirational women and I am looking forward to seeing what each of you comes out with next.
I hope in my journey to discover and implement my passion-filled career that I have an opportunity to work with amazing women like you.
HI Athena! Thank you so much for this comment! yep- no phoney baloney from me
Good luck with your new business! xoxo