25 acts of self love

I do my best when I hear the universe speaking to me. For one, I know I was put on this earth to teach and inspire. One of those things is to teach people how to love themselves. And I’ll be honest- when I went into business for myself and followed my intuition that told me to teach about self-love, I had this belief that self-love is a hard sell. In the beginning I had this made up notion that people only wanted solutions to 3 things:

How to be thin
How to have the best relationships
How to have more money

The end.

Self love didn’t fit anywhere into that equation for people looking for what made them happy. Unless I was selling those three things, I was doomed as a solopreneur.

After some ass kicking from my own coach as well as some colleagues, I’ve let go of this notion. What I’ve realized is at the end of the day, all humans want the same thing: To be loved and to be happy. And what do they THINK they’ll get from being thin, having better realationships and having more money?

Yep. Love and happiness.

Now, if you’re in a place where you think you want those 3 things I mentioned above, as I always say, you’re exactly where you need to be. That’s perfect for you.

But, I will tell you this:

Self-love is THE most important thing you need in order to have ANYTHING you want, really make you happy, loved and fulfilled. Without self-love you will constantly be wondering what is wrong with you, why things “never work out” and why you aren’t getting what you want. Self-love is the critical foundation in getting what you want.

Lately I’ve received a few emails from women asking me more about self-love. They say things like, “I hear you talk about self love a lot, and I’m not sure I have it. How do you get it?” or, “I have a great life, but I want more. I think lack of self-love is stopping me and I’ve never even thought about it!”

I distinctly remember the first person that told me about self-love. She was a councelor at my college (I was 30 at the time) and I was going through my divorce. She kept saying that no matter what happens, I need to love myself and that self love was so important.

It was like she was speaking a foreign language.

Six years and a ton of MAJOR breakthroughs later, I finally can speak her language. And she was so very right.

So, this post is dedicated to what self-love is. Tomorrow I’ll post about how to get it.

Self love is about defining what makes you happy and fulfilled.
It’s about going after those things with no apologies to anyone.
It’s about embracing exactly who you are. Owning your story no matter what it looks like.
It’s about forgiving yourself for past mistakes and looking for what you learned and how it’s made you a better person.
It’s about living your life according to your own personal values. Honoring each of them.
It’s about accepting that you are deserving of everything you want.
It’s about loving every part of you, including your physical body.
It’s about acknowledging your “humanness”. And accepting setbacks and moving forward instead of being taken away with it.
It’s about managing that inner-critic.
It’s about saying no even when it’s hard.
It’s about letting go of things that aren’t serving you, including people.
It’s about dreaming and fantasizing about your dream life.
It’s about taking inspired action.
It’s about taking breaks.
It’s about feeling your feelings, instead of numbing them.
It’s about asking the right people for support and help.
It’s about taking risks.
It’s about failing with grace.
It’s about being willing to be messy and imperfect. Even in front of others.
It’s about laughing at ourselves when it feels right.
It’s about listening to our inner-voice of wisdom.
It’s about not taking things personally.
It’s about breaking free from the box.
It’s about not being fearful of what other people think of self-love.

I’d love to hear what self love looks like to you in the comments.


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  1. Find the awesome in yourself, and do a little bit each day to enhance said awesome.

    Carolina wrote on 2/10/2012 - 4:29AM | permalink
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  6. We think we want to be thin or have money…nope. We want to be loved. Most of all, we want to love ourselves. And don’t you want to cover you tree in little red hearts now?

    rebecca @ altared spaces wrote on 11/29/2012 - 7:56PM | permalink
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