Easier Said Than Done
The other day I ran across a comment on Facebook where someone said something empowering and followed it up with, “But, that’s easier said than done!” I had a physical reaction when I read it. Now, granted I’ve read and even said that line myself many, many times, but for some reason it struck me.
About an hour later I saw it AGAIN. I knew the Universe was speaking, so I listened. It thought about how I truly felt about that statement, and how in the world could I write an entire blog post about it? But, yes. Yes, I could.
Here’s my response today about, “It’s easier said than done”: NO FUCKING SHIT. That is the most obvious statement that has ever come out of my mouth and I vow to you and Jesus that I will never say it to anyone again. It always seems to follow up a piece of wisdom or advice about life or healing or moving forward. So, here’s a news flash: LIFE IS HARD. HEALING HURTS. MOVING FORWARD IS SCARY.
So we can talk and talk and talk about what we want to do with our life. We can complain about anything and everything but when it comes to real life changes……well, that’s easier said than done.
Well, I call bullshit. No more cop-outs. EVERYTHING is easier said than done. Words are meaningless unless they are backed up with action, EVERYONE knows that. I know one thing to be true: a fulfilled, happy, amazing, kick-ass life takes WORK. Work on yourself, work on your past, work on your issues, work on your addictions, because if it were easy, in my humble opinion, there would be way less shit wrong with the world than there is now.
But, instead, people sit and talk and blow smoke out their asses and complain that they’re not happy because of so-and-so. And to change or work on themselves is easier said than done. Whatever.
There is so much help out there. Free help! And yes, I’m a life coach and I help people, but seriously, self-help books HELP people. Online support groups, face-to-face support groups are FREE and everywhere. And there are therapists, and coaches, and gurus and on and on to help you with your shit. There is not one single person I know that has an amazing life that somewhere hasn’t taken hard action and worked on themselves. A LOT. And none of them will tell you that it was easy, nor did it look like a tampon commercial.
You are the most precious thing you’ve got. You are priceless and worth all the work in the world to make you happy and fulfilled. This life you have is short. Live, love and learn on your terms.
Well that seemed easy.
Hope you have a great day and stretch yourself into the discomfort zone a little. I’m gonna try to do the same!
And it just occurred to me as I was rereading my comment… maybe it should be:
“Easier done than said.”
Things are very often easier than we thought (or tell ourselves) they would be once we finally get started doing them. It’s all of the thinking and talking that we do before hand about how hard they are going to be that is the hard part. Just a thought. Hm, maybe I’ll write a blog post on that!
Shannon,
I couldn’t agree more! The story we tell ourselves can get so drama-filled with “what if’s” we end up planning our own funeral before we even try. I can’t count how many times I’ve done this!
Thank you for your blog post. I believe complaining is a sign that something needs to change. Saying it is the first step. Then DO something. If we stop in the complaining stage, well, then we are truly stuck.
YES ANDREA.
Great blog. I love how you write from your heart with a few spicy words in there. Its really helped me personally as a fellow coach/ blogger.
As for what you wrote- you are totally right. ANYONE living happy and free has done a shitload of work- and it continues on!! at some point you just have to DO IT regardless of how you feel.
I feel the same way with the word “should”, we shouldn’t should all over ourselves all the time. We can’t go back and change something we did or didn’t do, so there is no sense in dwelling on it.
It’s easier said than done to make this change to remove this phrase.
Okay, I’m being facetious. This was a great post and you’re absolutely right, Andrea! Obviously it is going to be difficult, but change IS difficult. No shit. Just as you said, it’s a cop-out for not having to follow through a wonderful piece of advice. That’s stupid. If I get some advice, I’m going to want to follow it, not matter how “easier said than done.”
Nice post, Andrea!
Right!!!? It’s so funny because the first thing I thought was, “no shit”. You know what I think “easier said than done” really is… a fucking gremlin voice. That’s it. Plain and simple. Just committed to staying the same, copping out, an not growing. I totally hate that statement too… probably because I’m always trying to sniper-out my gremlin. Great post! Thanks!
You know, I was just thinking a similar thought today. I said to someone, “It’s a lot of work, but it’s a lot of fun too!” and I thought to myself, no shit, Sherlock. most things that are really fun take some work. Exercise, sex, dinner parties, arts and crafts, dancing, a good marriage, girls’ nights, theme parties, doing a job that you LOVE… They all take work. But they’re WORTH it!
Even naps. It takes some work to get both kids to nap at the same time, so I can have a nap too. But it’s worth it!
As for “Easier said than done,” I say it all the time (more for other people’s sake than my own though). I’ll try to remove it from my lexicon.
Michelle, I think I say it for other people too. Perhaps in an effort to emphasize that I feel bad that they have to work on their life? No more!
True story.
I’m very aware of when I’m rehashing my old stories, rarely say ‘easier said than done’ (it’s more a force of habit rather than a real saboteur I reckon, cos more often than not we DO end up doing what we thought was hard anyways). It comes down to being conscious about the words we use.
I do say ‘yeah.. but’ a bit but am quick to change my words around to ‘I CHOOSE ..” so on the whole, pleased with how I’m creating my reality with empowering thoughts and words. Sexypants post!
I’m living this choice over and over and over: make change or make excuses. And over again. The alternative is oh so unacceptable. Love you, A.
I like to say, “done is better than perfect”. It helps keep me moving when “easier said than done” gives me pause. Great blog and good food for thought.
ok, this was exactly the type of post I needed right now! Thank you!